A few years ago, I started blogging. I remember posting something on Facebook about starting a “mom blog.” I had no idea what I was doing. An acquaintance was kind enough to give me some feedback and directions. I was scared. But he walked me through it, and I was able to get my very first “real” blog post up. And as you would say, the rest is history. Fast forward a few dozen blog post later; I became stuck again. In today’s post, I’m sharing how having a mentor that’s also my closest friend, has helped me with my blogging and facing my monsters.
What happens when your mentor is also your closest friend?
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When your mentor happens to be your closest friend, there’s no filter. There’s no sugar coating it. He told me once “M; you have to face your monsters.” I just looked at him like he’d lost his damn mind. Was I ready to face my monsters? I spent so many years accumulating debts because of my poor shopping habits. Why was I so afraid of facing my monsters? Does it mean I have to give up shopping? That didn’t sit well with me. But you know what else didn’t sit well with me? Having debts! So I started facing my monsters. One monster, every month. By doing so, I was able to pay down 10,000 of my credit line (which was initially 16,000). Took me two years! This might not sound like a significant achievement to most, but for me it was a huge deal!
What are some of the benefits of having a mentor?
A mentor is someone that will help you stay focus on your goals. When I first started writing my monster chronicles, R would message me the night before the 1st of each month to “remind” me to update my income report. They will listen to you when you are feeling down. Whenever I would get frustrated about things, he would just listen to me vent before helping me. They will offer solutions when facing dilemmas.
Who can be a mentor?
A mentor is someone that you admire and respect. My mentor started out as “the dude that talks really fast”. Now, I think of him as a part of my family. It does help that he is a very likeable dude!
Always surround yourself with positive people! You will go far!
I feel blessed for having a mentor that is also my closest friend. Do you have a mentor? If you don’t, you should totally get one!
Stay awesome and be sure to subscribe to my blog for updates on my monsters chronicles!
When you surround yourself with positive people, almost anyone can end up being a mentor. That’s one of the biggest perks!
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I think it would be awesome to have your closest friend as your mentor. So glad that you have that!
Way to go on accomplishing your goals. I don’t have a mentor. Can I borrow yours? I think having a mentor would be inspiring and I love that yours don’t sugar coat anything. That’s exactly what I need.
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I am blessed that my business partner is also my best friend!! Makes work a lot of fun on a daily basis
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Mentors are awesome! They are some of the best supporters of you when you are starting out. I had one for a long time and it really helped me.
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“A mentor is someone that you admire and respect.” Completly agree with this !!!
I would love to have my mentor be my closest friend. I’m not sure I really have a mentor at this point but I would love to have one as my friend.
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How wonderful. I never had a mentor but my son does and he really likes her.
It’s good to have someone who would motivate you and encourage you to improve. I love that your mentor also happens to be your friend, it will make you more at ease and it’s definitely easier to listen to his advice.
Having a mentor that’s a close friends is awesome! Conversations and comfort levels are much easier I bet! And also always getting true honesty!
Everyone needs a mentor and it is best when he or she is your closest friend. Last year, I wrote a blog-post about “how to find a good mentor or guru”. However, I know that mentors are not only good in motivating us, but also plays an important part in our personal development.
It is wonderful that you have such a great mentor. It is so cool that you are good friends with your mentor!
This seems like a perfect combination! I have so many mentors and people I look up to. Most of them are close friends. It’s such a great feeling 🙂
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It’s great that you have someone to help and encourage you. It’s even greater that he is your closest friend.
Yes! Sounds like not only do you have a mentor (which is a blessing), but a good one! I love how he keeps you so accountable!
It is so great to have a close friend who can help you through things and teach you. I think there are definite pluses about your mentor being your best friend, but you have to be careful of the downsides too. Such as, they may not feel like they can be as honest with you if there’s something they think you should change or improve, and it can be tempting to over pester them for things. I’ve experienced both sides a time or two haha!
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My mento is in fact, my best friend. Actually we are each other’s mentor! We are lucky to have each other!
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i used to have a mentor when i was younger and i would love to have one again. i would also love to mentor a young teen age girl and share what i’ve learned!
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I think having a mentor is amazing! I think it would be even better to have them as your best friend. It’s got to be an amazing feeling to be friends with your mentor.
love love this post! takes me back to my first mentor and all the awesomness that insued
he really was something. i love having a mentor.
Well done for facing your monsters with your mentors help. I often mentor my friends.
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Good for you to have your closest friend as your mentor. I think that is totally awesome! I’ve never tried having a mentor. 🙂
Having a mentor is such a great motivator. And, I totally agree with surrounding yourself with positive people. That is one of my keys to success!
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My friend is my blogging mentor and I definitely would not be where I am today without her assistance. Even after six years I still turn to her for advice on how to improve things.
I’m so happy that you have a found a friend whom you also consider as your mentor. You’re very lucky to have that kind of friendship.
I actually think that it is better when there is no filters. That means that the advice that you receive will be truthful and authentic.
This combo sounds amazing!!! I would
Love it if my mentor was also a bestie! That’s exactly how you build empires!
I love being around with positive people because they encourage me to think and act like one. I’s so glad that I am surrounded with positive people!
My only mentor was my father, all of my life lessons came from him. It’s nice of you to have someone you look up to and still treat as a friend, very rare but very heartwarming!
Mentorships are awesome. I had some as a child and also had the privilege of being one a few times. I need to get back into it.
I’m so glad that my mentor is my best friend we know each other and I really know her she is more positive than me.
This is great that you have a mentor who is also your friend. I guess that means he can get away with telling your harsh things by not sugar coating something a friend may.