I’m taking a break from my usual “Grateful Sunday” posts. I lost my sh*t while cleaning the toilet bowl today. After screaming at the top of my lungs (freaking the kids out and confusing Demo), I thought about removing the toilet bowl and throwing it out the window. I felt horrible about it once I calmed down, but in that dark moment of frustration, I didn’t feel grateful. You know what? That’s OK.
Sometimes I Don’t Feel Grateful, And That’s OK
Instead of going on and on about my crappy day here on the blog, I want to share some ways that I “cope” when I feel like throwing things out of the window.
- Don’t talk it. Talking it out is usually the LAST thing I want to do when I’m angry or frustrated about things. You see, I’m Haitian. And when Haitians are mad about something, they tend to be mad about pretty much everything. So talking is a big no for me. I just need a minute alone to collect my thoughts before we can “talk it out.”
- Breathe!! I forget to breathe when I’m pissed. I think that’s why I let out this crazy scream today.
- Allow yourself to be upset. It’s OK to be made about things. It’s OK to feel like crying. Letting things bottled up is NOT OK!
- Go to a quiet place to think. Today I couldn’t go to my quiet place. Why? Because my quiet place is usually the bathroom, but today the bathroom was the reason why I was upset. I need a new quiet place.
- Talk it out. Yes I know earlier I said to avoid talking it out, but you will have to eventually. Just make sure you are completely calm before you do.
Bonus: Sometimes you just need a good cry, and that’s OK. Plus crying help soothes the soul. So have a good cry, shake it off and remember, it’s going to be OK!
Thank you for letting me vent today. Next week I hope to be back with a fun, upbeat post for you. What do you do when you don’t feel grateful?
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I know how you feel and sometimes taking a break to collect yourself is the answers. Sometimes feeling what you feel in the moment is just fine, but you do eventually need to move out of that bad space so you can have a healthier and more productive life… hope all is well!
Nothing trumps a good cry for me. Talking just brings out the worse parts of me, even hubby knows to give me time out before lending an ear on what bothers me.
Happens to everyone of us. I have days like that too, so don’t worry, it is not an isolated case. LOL. When I get frustrated, I walk away. Literally. I go out of the house and walk. That gives me the right distance away from what frustrates me plus walking can burn off whatever hormone it was that made me snap. I usually walk maybe 2-3 blocks then circle around and go home. At that time I am already relaxed but not yet ready to talk it out. And THAT’S OK. 🙂 Moms have real feelings too.
It’s good that you know yourself well enough to be able to cope with the stress and anger. It’s difficult to cool down sometimes.
When we moved to rural Tennessee, my mom’s advice to me was, “Don’t rely on your husband for emotional support.” (As he was starting medical school and she was worried I’d be a distraction if I felt homesick or sad.”
But it’s something I just can’t bottle in. I think we’re both in a better state of mind when I can openly communicate how I’m feeling! We talk it out and work together to get over it.
I can really relate to this lately. Sometimes its OK if you don’t feel grateful and you have a little down time. A good cry is needed.
I think we all have those moments. I totally get it.
You’re right though… sometimes it’s best not to say anything in those moments because what would come out would not be good and probably not how you really felt.
I think we have all been there if we are honest with ourselves. I am glad that you are able to recognize what triggers stress
I agree with you that it is sometimes fine to succumb to your feelings of being upset. I think it is not good to hold those feelings in just to appease others.
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Such a great post! I completely agree with you 🙂 Sometimes staying alone is better. It is a powerful medicine for the mind.