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The Great Love Debate: Why Are We Still Single?

Today I’m doing an interview with Frank Kermit.  I met Frank last summer around the time when I first started doing events for my Scentsy business.  We both had fedora hat on our heads. 🙂  After talking a little, we exchanged info. Last year I was looking to seriously start blogging but had a lot of doubts and fears. Frank was able to help me overcome those fears. Best advice he ever game me? “Just write!”

Tell us a little bit about yourself and what you do.

My name is Frank Kermit, and I am a Relationship and Dating Coach. I work
with singles and couples to teach them basic social skills and teach them
about emotional needs for all kinds of different structures for loving
relationships.

1. What are some tips you would give when it comes to dating?

Basically, know yourself, know what you want out of life, and figure out
who can help you build that future.
If you have too much choice, but have no life management skills to
administer your abundance of choices, you will end up miserable.

2. Some people might not be comfortable with the idea of online dating.
What are some ways to meet people?

There are SO many ways to meet people.
Dating through your circle of friends, letting people set you up on blind
dates, using match making agencies, speed dating, newspaper personals,
seeking people with common interests through social associations and meet
ups, going to bars and clubs, finding an enlightened partner through your
place of worship, taking a class at school, or a seminar workshop, saying
hello to people you see at grocery stores and coffee shops, book stores and
libraries, all retail stores and shopping malls, concerts, gyms, dance
halls, exhibits, museums, and street events, tourist attractions, landmarks
and generally, as long as you are willing to be the first person to say
hello, basically, everywhere and anywhere people go.

And to top it all off, going to a singles event like The Great Love Debate
on August 4th, where there will be an after party for you to meet up to 150
available men and women and their friends.

3. Do you believe there is such a thing as “choosing to be single”?

Yes. There are some people that are happily single. This includes people
who date casually and are imitate and never want to get serious, and others
who never date at all and prefer to be alone. There are all sorts of
reasons from just finding dating too complicated, to hating the opposite
gender, to just preferring life alone. I am actually a great supporter of
this, despite my profession as a relationship and dating coach. Bottom
line is, some people are best not to be in relationships. And if someone
knows himself or herself enough to stay out, and they are happy with that
decision and do not complain about it, then that is the best decision for
them to make.

4. What advice would you give to someone that is looking to start dating after being single for a long time?

Keep an open mind to break those old repeating behavior patterns that keep
them single, and to go out and date as many new people as possible.
Give everybody one date to sweep you off your feet.
Do not assume you are too good for anyone.
Do not assume you are not good enough for anyone.
Do not get distracted by the illusion of finding a perfect partner and
perfect relationship. It does not exist. Forget the fantasy and focus on
finding and relating to a real person.
Have boundaries about what you want out of life and how you are to be
treated to make sure that you do not waste time with the wrong person for
too long.

5. Can you tell us what the upcoming event is going to be all about?

I will be a panelist at the International Great Love Debate 2014 Tour when
it comes to Montreal on August 4th. The theme that will be debated and
discussed is Why Are We Still Single? It will take place at Studio A at
Centre Phi, 407, rue Saint-Pierre, Montreal, Qc, Canada, H2Y 2M3
Time: 7:30 pm to 9:30 pm (Doors open at 6:30 for cocktails). The Cost is
40$ plus fees (Includes admission to post-show “Meet, Greet, Mix, Mingle, &
Match” party!)

Use The Promo code: It is “FRANK“, and whoever uses it will
get $10 off the ticket price. Capacity: 75 spots for available men only, 75
spots for available women only, reserve your spot now.

 

The Great Love Debate

Connect with Frank on his blog and on Facebook
Telephone: 514- 680-3278
email: [email protected]

International Great Love Debate 2014 Tour

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  1. N Phoenix says

    I’m married with kids but that still doesn’t stop me from giving good advice. I totally agree with boundaries tip. That goes for everything in life. Great advice

  7. Jennifer Williams says

    My husband and I neither one wanted a serious relationship when we met – look at us now! Two kids later we are those sappy people that I drive over to have lunch with him a few days a week because I can not wait until he gets home to see him. You never know what life will bring you.

  16. Jessica Peeling says

    I completely agree that you have to really know yourself before you can give your all to a relationship. This is all great advice! I have seen way too many people who either think they are too good or not good enough, which isn’t usually the case!

  21. Anna says

    I’m happily married now, but when I was single I always went by the rule that anyone can have one date. If safety was an concern (which it never was) I’d insist on a double date, but I never told a guy no to a first date.
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  22. Rochelle says

    I love your advice you give in #4!! Each one of them is perfect and important. I think some people are holding out for these impossible expectations that no one can meet. Either that or they think they’re not someone’s idea of perfect just because they’re single. Great post and I love your thoughts on being single.
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  26. Chasity Boatman says

    Singles events seem like a great way to meet people. I would be really uncomfortable doing online dating.

  27. Pam says

    I have been married for 37 years and so hopefully I will never need these services, LOL. My adults sons are both single and I know that it is a whole different dating world out there now then when I was young. I also know that meeting people online is much more common and acceptable now.

  30. Rebecca Swenor says

    Great interview as well as interesting. The event can help a lot of people meet people and it is great they can get $10 off their ticket for the event. Thanks for sharing.

  37. Dawn says

    I am happily married, but back when I was single, these tips would have been very useful! I’ll be sure to pass them on to my daughter!

  39. cococute life says

    For a very long time that I have been single, reading this article with a very clear explanation about the freedom of being single and the choice of changing that I found this very useful and it is no doubt from a coach like Frank who is an expert of that field.
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